Of Marriage, moral values and dogs

A, B and C are work mates who have known one another for over a decade, and shared many experiences both good and bad. I'd like to think they have become friends to say the least over the decade.

A is married to X.

X used to get along with B and C until some strange misunderstanding occurred which rendered her senseless. She is of the impression that B and C are out to get her husband.

Now A is a) not tall b) not attractive c) no spring chicken.
B is married and her husband knows X.
C would have to have her brain fried and toasted in order to have any form of interest in A.

You get the drift.

When X decided to dislike B and C, it happened abuptly and rudely, taking them both by surprise.

It took the life out of A to explain to his friends and work mates that his wife has a severe misunderstanding, and hence her rude and senseless behaviour.

Not once did he apologise for X's bad behaviour or his failure to clarify issues with X.

No, A did not explain to his wife the situation and handled the situation by completely avoiding the issue. ie he let his wife continue to believe what she liked. His solution was to avoid the topic altogether, and hope that the 2 groups do not meet.

Now life's not always a bed of roses. X does run into B and C on occasions. Behaves badly. Not that it should affect B or C, but life already has its fair share of irritants. Do we really need another?

When B and C tried to speak with A about resolving the misunderstanding, he avoided and sided with his wife. Reason - they are married.

So marriage changes one's values, and principles. Marriage binds his values to hers, however wrong they may be, making him utterly blind sided to what is right or ought to be right.

I think what gets to my bone, is that this man is really weak. Chooses to skirt over the issue of resolving the issue, and chooses to battle with B and C ( whom I'd like to think are his friends ) to defend his wife, who is blind sided to the truth.

In fact I don't blame his wife X as she had a wrong point of view, and will remain so until she is corrected. Only A can resolve this, and he chooses to side X over his friends. Simply because he is married to X.

So really this issue here is with A, not X.

Now, if I had a wife who has a wrong opinion of my mates, I would have resolve the issue, or else it would be an issue I have with my wife, for having an issue with my mates. How can I allow my wife to be biased against my friends and knowingly support her, just because we are married? Flawed logic. Marriage is dangerous after all.

Some people just choose to be blind. Love is, after all, like they say, blind. Now I also know, love can make one stupid too.

Maybe I should just stop feeling so frustrated, you can't stop idiots from being fools.

What pains me is seeing how badly A behaves, reflecting the image of X when challenged about her behaviour. Scary. You know how they say dogs and their owners grow alike over time? Bruno tells me even dogs get disciplined when they behave badly in public.



At the end of the day, I will always remember that A never said they were friends. Just colleagues. Hahaha!!

What is painful is that B and C will still continue to stomach X's nonsense on A's account. They will still treat him as a friend, despite the injustice done to B and C's moral standing due to X's incompetence to comprehend, and A's inability to stand up for what is right.

Really, you can't stop idiots from being fools.